Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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FR: 300 approaches and running- SELF-MASTERY & The_Shezzler

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excellent work my man.
I hope your nipples arent too sore this morning :p
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by MasterYoda
This HB9 must of been one of the nice ones whose down to earth. Last week I saw two hb10s and they were so up their asses when I said "hi" ignored me. The sad thing is there was nothing I could have done. Using a neg would have been suicide. So instead I said she had a nice face instead and she still walked past.

You: Hi.

Her: - - - -

You: You know, I just noticed something really interesting about you, that I bet most people wouldn't notice.
 

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I didn't sarge at all :( I had some ego stroking to do...

Hopefully tomorrow will be better.

I only have to do 9 approaches by sunday.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by SELF-MASTERY
APPROACH #15:

Still in the same spot, but a few seconds later.

I spot a real cutie w/ glasses.... Smart girl hottness.

ME: Hey come here and receive this game.

WHAT?
 

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Yeah.....

I actually said that.

She knew what was up.


I've been sargeless for the last few days. Hopefully, I'll get in 50 approaches this week. It's hard racking up approaches in everyday places, but that is what makes this a little more special than some guy who goes to a club and says hi to every girl.....
 

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Can I just ask a question out of interest, and this is not posed negatively at all.

For you guys doing all this sarging, how many actual beautiful woman (woman that you would consider girlfriend material), have you been dating? And further, if you have dated them for extended periods, have you kept their high interest level?

If so, why dont you have a girlfriend currently? As I have seem some of these names of the guys who are out sarging, going around for months now, without any mention of a meaningful relationship.

Just some thoughts, as it has been a long time since I was in your boat, and wonder how, with all this dating, you have not found a girl you really like yet and made her your girlfriend.

These thoughts just came as I see all these sarging threads lately, and remembered back to my days, with my mates, when we used to do this a lot. Although, after a long period of doing it, each and every one met a girl they really liked/loved, and ended the sarging (at least for a long period). The cycle then continues.
 

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Originally posted by CLOONEY
Can I just ask a question out of interest, and this is not posed negatively at all.

For you guys doing all this sarging, how many actual beautiful woman (woman that you would consider girlfriend material), have you been dating? And further, if you have dated them for extended periods, have you kept their high interest level?

If so, why dont you have a girlfriend currently? As I have seem some of these names of the guys who are out sarging, going around for months now, without any mention of a meaningful relationship.

Just some thoughts, as it has been a long time since I was in your boat, and wonder how, with all this dating, you have not found a girl you really like yet and made her your girlfriend.

These thoughts just came as I see all these sarging threads lately, and remembered back to my days, with my mates, when we used to do this a lot. Although, after a long period of doing it, each and every one met a girl they really liked/loved, and ended the sarging (at least for a long period). The cycle then continues.
Clooney:

It take time for newbies to realize how to advance from cold-approaches to relationships. Also once they realize how easy it is to be confident and get girls, they love the attention they get from sooooo many different girls that they probably don't want a gf. Eventually all the sarging gets old and you meet a great girl. But once that relationship ends, the cycle starts all over again.




PIMP
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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#29/30


Clooney, I agree with PIMP's answer to your question, but secretly I do want a relationship.

Monday 24, 2005

2 approaches.....

I used my ballbreaker on a 2 set of cute asian girls. No numbers, only conversation...

Someone give me idea of everyday places to sarge.
 

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Originally posted by SELF-MASTERY
#29/30


Clooney, I agree with PIMP's answer to your question, but secretly I do want a relationship.

Monday 24, 2005

2 approaches.....

I used my ballbreaker on a 2 set of cute asian girls. No numbers, only conversation...

Someone give me idea of everyday places to sarge.
Yeah, fair enough. Good to see some of these guys sarging at least know they want to find a great girl to settle down with for a while. All deep down want it, they just dont relise it at first, or blatantly deny it! But you are on the right track, all the guys out "sarging" will be the ones who end up with the great girls. And all the guys sitting doing no approaches, will be the ones who end up watching and always being single, or settling for less. I have seen it so many times!

Good luck boys!
 

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Originally posted by silenthill
What the hell is up with all these asians? Are you asian or something?
I am not asian, but I am a fan of asian women.
 

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Woo, excellent thread, i love this thread so far, keep it up guys.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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APPROACHES 31 --------- 62

Daily total at 2:30 pm--- 31 approaches!!!!!!!!!!!

This is a quick summary........ I performed 25 approaches at a college near my home; I received 6 numbers, and one rejection from a nasty chick who wouldn't even say hi.

I performed 6 approaches at the mall without much success.

I learned 3 lessons:

1- I can approach anyone

2- Group approaches aren't as scary as we make them out to be. I actually seeked out groups; my ballbreaker technique was useful twice to day on the campus elevator, where I opened one 3 set and one 4 set. While on the elevator, I said something like, wow I have a pick of three GF's maybe I will choose you all, and I pointed to each one-- monday, tuesday, wednesday.

3- Rejection ain't shytte

I had the idea to open a class of 30 women, but wussied out:(
My new goal is to ballbreak a double digit set in the next 2 weeks.

I wish I had time to go into more detail, but I have to work....

Sarge on!!!!!!!!!!
 
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my goal is to reach 100 approaches by monday.
 

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haha! walk down the front of your class and say "all you ladies here look desperate for a real man. come down and put your number on this list." :D
 

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70 approaches and running...

Did 8 more approaches got 2 new numbers (1 from a cutie that I had a crush on). I'll use weds to up my approach count. I've been courting the hb9 for the last 2 weeks; I'm happy with how this relationship is going.
 

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Originally posted by lebRambo
haha! walk down the front of your class and say "all you ladies here look desperate for a real man. come down and put your number on this list." :D


hahahahahahahahahaahahahahahahaha



seriously though this thread is great!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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