You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Originally posted by Jedo1
She just called back and said she is comming over, she wants me to tell her that to her face.
What should I do?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Originally posted by Jedo1
I didn't promise her I wouldnt tell the other guy,
And she called, said she was comming over and hung up. She doesn't have a cell so she must be on her way.
I don't know what should I do when she gets here?
That is still not a valid excuse. I am so sick of women who get drunk and do some sh1t and then make excuses.Originally posted by Keeper
Yeah... but as the topic started mentioned, he's been seeing this girl for a few weeks after she got back from her holiday. :-/
Edit: Oh... and technically I didn't see her banging the dude. If it makes you feel any better... maybe she got stone drunk and she got dares to hold the guys **** while someone takes a picture... you never know. :-D
Still... dump her ass.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Originally posted by DJDamage
That is still not a valid excuse. I am so sick of women who get drunk and do some sh1t and then make excuses.
Ludacris: "I want a lady in the street but a freak in the bed".
If she sucks a guys d1ck in front of everybody she is not a lady but a wh0re.
Sex should be a private thing. Even if she wasn't cheating that was still disgusting.
I agree, tell her that you won't tell her friend's b/f if she blows you right now!I still say
"Bust in her mouth
Kick her the -f*ck- out
She'll cuss me out, like...
[Chorus 1]
Phuk.. U..
Phuk.. U.."
Ask her if she ever heard of the 1 fvck a trip rule? You're a wh0re if you fvck more than 1 guy in a trip.Originally posted by Jedo1
I just got off the phone with her
She admitted to having sex with 3 differant guys on the trip.
She said she was having fun, and that we werent going out, so it wasn't cheating on me. (Which is technically true)
I asked her what about your friend, she has a boyfriend, wasn't she cheating on him?
She seriously said this to me. "Didn't you ever hear of the 1000 mile radius rule? I doesn't count if you are over 1000 miles away"
I was like what the fvk?
She then goes on to say "It was just sex, it's not like we liked those guys or anything"
I told her I don't want to see her anymore because she is too promiscuous, and that she could have gotten a disease.
She told me fine be that way then tried to make me promise I wouldn't say anything t the other girl's boyfriend.
I told her to get bent and hung up the phone
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.