When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Originally posted by Jedo1
She just called back and said she is comming over, she wants me to tell her that to her face.
What should I do?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Originally posted by Jedo1
I didn't promise her I wouldnt tell the other guy,
And she called, said she was comming over and hung up. She doesn't have a cell so she must be on her way.
I don't know what should I do when she gets here?
That is still not a valid excuse. I am so sick of women who get drunk and do some sh1t and then make excuses.Originally posted by Keeper
Yeah... but as the topic started mentioned, he's been seeing this girl for a few weeks after she got back from her holiday. :-/
Edit: Oh... and technically I didn't see her banging the dude. If it makes you feel any better... maybe she got stone drunk and she got dares to hold the guys **** while someone takes a picture... you never know. :-D
Still... dump her ass.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Originally posted by DJDamage
That is still not a valid excuse. I am so sick of women who get drunk and do some sh1t and then make excuses.
Ludacris: "I want a lady in the street but a freak in the bed".
If she sucks a guys d1ck in front of everybody she is not a lady but a wh0re.
Sex should be a private thing. Even if she wasn't cheating that was still disgusting.
I agree, tell her that you won't tell her friend's b/f if she blows you right now!I still say
"Bust in her mouth
Kick her the -f*ck- out
She'll cuss me out, like...
[Chorus 1]
Phuk.. U..
Phuk.. U.."
Ask her if she ever heard of the 1 fvck a trip rule? You're a wh0re if you fvck more than 1 guy in a trip.Originally posted by Jedo1
I just got off the phone with her
She admitted to having sex with 3 differant guys on the trip.
She said she was having fun, and that we werent going out, so it wasn't cheating on me. (Which is technically true)
I asked her what about your friend, she has a boyfriend, wasn't she cheating on him?
She seriously said this to me. "Didn't you ever hear of the 1000 mile radius rule? I doesn't count if you are over 1000 miles away"
I was like what the fvk?
She then goes on to say "It was just sex, it's not like we liked those guys or anything"
I told her I don't want to see her anymore because she is too promiscuous, and that she could have gotten a disease.
She told me fine be that way then tried to make me promise I wouldn't say anything t the other girl's boyfriend.
I told her to get bent and hung up the phone
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.