mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
That's no issue. I thought it means your festering with anger and worried about some long term revenge bs.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Forgiving vs holding grudges...
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Reyaj
Master Don Juan
I do understand this and often agree with the sentiment of "living well is the best revenge"
However I think context may matter... There can be varying degrees of being wronged.
Reyaj
Master Don Juan
You know what fvck this new age buddist bs... Getting payback feels good!
Wel as a hypothetical exercise if somebody was going to do it fish oil in a syringe down car door seals and air conditioning vents works. Cost them thousands to get it cleaned. And of course that hypothetical someone would need to be careful cameras everywhere these days
Pierce Manhammer
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“I’m not perfect, I’m forgiven”
Hah, f dat
Hah, f dat
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Reyaj
Master Don Juan
I've really tried to let something go but I can't and am haunted by it to a degree. I think plotting out vengeance may be the only way past it.
I did try to resist it for a very long time..
I did try to resist it for a very long time..
RickTheToad
Moderator
God forgives, however, the toad never forgets....
EyeBRollin
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Let it go. But as toad said never forget.