mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
That's no issue. I thought it means your festering with anger and worried about some long term revenge bs.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Forgiving vs holding grudges...
- Thread starter Reyaj
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Reyaj
Master Don Juan
I do understand this and often agree with the sentiment of "living well is the best revenge"
However I think context may matter... There can be varying degrees of being wronged.
Reyaj
Master Don Juan
You know what fvck this new age buddist bs... Getting payback feels good!
Wel as a hypothetical exercise if somebody was going to do it fish oil in a syringe down car door seals and air conditioning vents works. Cost them thousands to get it cleaned. And of course that hypothetical someone would need to be careful cameras everywhere these days
Pierce Manhammer
Moderator
“I’m not perfect, I’m forgiven”
Hah, f dat
Hah, f dat
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Reyaj
Master Don Juan
I've really tried to let something go but I can't and am haunted by it to a degree. I think plotting out vengeance may be the only way past it.
I did try to resist it for a very long time..
I did try to resist it for a very long time..
RickTheToad
Moderator
God forgives, however, the toad never forgets....
EyeBRollin
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Let it go. But as toad said never forget.