MatureDJ
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
MatureDJ said:
Not true (in the sense you mean) and even if it was true (which it isn't). Men are built tougher anyway, with the intestinal fortitude, the physical and mental strength that women cannot even imagine, so logically it would work out about even.Unprez said:its true men have it harder and y we need to work harder
Actually, Dwayne's forehead should say "WE JUST DON'T GET IT, and stuff"( . )( . ) said:The words "WE JUST DONT GET IT" should be stamped on their foreheads.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ask yourself something: are you happy with who you are? Chances are you aren't. Don't think of it as working to win over women, think of it as working to make yourself into who you want to be. Women will be a by-product of your personal success.Unprez said:yea good point....woman are more social creatures as put by DJs here so makes sense.......but i always have that bitterness that men need to work so hard, that its not good enough to have a good heart or be a good person....u need to be ripped, make **** loads of money and have game and be popular etc and then after all that a girls expect that you be loyal to her only after she notices u after all the hurdles u go through.....
yes they will be. If guys actually liked themselves women would come naturally. They wouldn't have to force it. I realize this and this is the route I've chosen to go. Now when I get a negative thought about myself it pisses me off because it has no place.LeftyLoosey said:Ask yourself something: are you happy with who you are? Chances are you aren't. Don't think of it as working to win over women, think of it as working to make yourself into who you want to be. Women will be a by-product of your personal success.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.