MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
MatureDJ said:
Not true (in the sense you mean) and even if it was true (which it isn't). Men are built tougher anyway, with the intestinal fortitude, the physical and mental strength that women cannot even imagine, so logically it would work out about even.Unprez said:its true men have it harder and y we need to work harder
Actually, Dwayne's forehead should say "WE JUST DON'T GET IT, and stuff"( . )( . ) said:The words "WE JUST DONT GET IT" should be stamped on their foreheads.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ask yourself something: are you happy with who you are? Chances are you aren't. Don't think of it as working to win over women, think of it as working to make yourself into who you want to be. Women will be a by-product of your personal success.Unprez said:yea good point....woman are more social creatures as put by DJs here so makes sense.......but i always have that bitterness that men need to work so hard, that its not good enough to have a good heart or be a good person....u need to be ripped, make **** loads of money and have game and be popular etc and then after all that a girls expect that you be loyal to her only after she notices u after all the hurdles u go through.....
yes they will be. If guys actually liked themselves women would come naturally. They wouldn't have to force it. I realize this and this is the route I've chosen to go. Now when I get a negative thought about myself it pisses me off because it has no place.LeftyLoosey said:Ask yourself something: are you happy with who you are? Chances are you aren't. Don't think of it as working to win over women, think of it as working to make yourself into who you want to be. Women will be a by-product of your personal success.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.