MatureDJ
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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
MatureDJ said:
Not true (in the sense you mean) and even if it was true (which it isn't). Men are built tougher anyway, with the intestinal fortitude, the physical and mental strength that women cannot even imagine, so logically it would work out about even.Unprez said:its true men have it harder and y we need to work harder
Actually, Dwayne's forehead should say "WE JUST DON'T GET IT, and stuff"( . )( . ) said:The words "WE JUST DONT GET IT" should be stamped on their foreheads.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Ask yourself something: are you happy with who you are? Chances are you aren't. Don't think of it as working to win over women, think of it as working to make yourself into who you want to be. Women will be a by-product of your personal success.Unprez said:yea good point....woman are more social creatures as put by DJs here so makes sense.......but i always have that bitterness that men need to work so hard, that its not good enough to have a good heart or be a good person....u need to be ripped, make **** loads of money and have game and be popular etc and then after all that a girls expect that you be loyal to her only after she notices u after all the hurdles u go through.....
yes they will be. If guys actually liked themselves women would come naturally. They wouldn't have to force it. I realize this and this is the route I've chosen to go. Now when I get a negative thought about myself it pisses me off because it has no place.LeftyLoosey said:Ask yourself something: are you happy with who you are? Chances are you aren't. Don't think of it as working to win over women, think of it as working to make yourself into who you want to be. Women will be a by-product of your personal success.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.