lizardking82
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I made a thread here about a girl coming over at my place the beginning of January and then nothing happening cause she was acting weird and it all got weird. Problem is, I had this feeling in my gut that I maybe did the hurried thing to just give her the silent treatment for the last 2 months. Since I have a girlfriend and two other girls in rotation, I am quite easily dismissing of any "uncertainty" sign from women in general, but I guess uncertainty is their "bread and butter". The communication is off since 2 months, but she still watches everything I post LOL and has not taken me off of any social media yet.
I wrote to her today. I will try inviting her over at my place again depending on how the conversation goes (if there is any conversation at all). What I wanted to say with this thread is that whenever I have had a doubt in my mind about a girl, I always found it "soothing" and "freeing" to remove doubt and just give it a try. Even when I got refused, it was OK, it was not bugging my mind anymore ever after. I am not scared of her rejecting me at all and I am more relaxed about it already, without her even answering yet.
I remember when my gf broke up from me about almost 3 years ago now (the reason I signed up for this forum) and I went total silence for 3 months...but then I had an urging feeling of wanting to write to her. It was bugging me for a week and I finally said "fack it, why would I let this bug me for so long?" so I wrote to her, asked her if she'd changed her mind about it, she said no and it was the most relaxing feeling ever in those 4 months. I finally was clear and knew she had moved on so I moved on as well.
Sometimes, in order to protect our ego from being "rejected again" or from having the other person ignore us, we make plans and strategies and we sit and wait, but it's really just consuming your brain and emotional power. If you have a doubt about a communication with a girl that was left unclear or kind of open situation, remove doubt by just contacting the person. The way they respond and whether they respond or not will give you an answer that should let you know where the situation stands. I find it more straightforward and it has been more positive than negative for me over last few years.
I wrote to her today. I will try inviting her over at my place again depending on how the conversation goes (if there is any conversation at all). What I wanted to say with this thread is that whenever I have had a doubt in my mind about a girl, I always found it "soothing" and "freeing" to remove doubt and just give it a try. Even when I got refused, it was OK, it was not bugging my mind anymore ever after. I am not scared of her rejecting me at all and I am more relaxed about it already, without her even answering yet.
I remember when my gf broke up from me about almost 3 years ago now (the reason I signed up for this forum) and I went total silence for 3 months...but then I had an urging feeling of wanting to write to her. It was bugging me for a week and I finally said "fack it, why would I let this bug me for so long?" so I wrote to her, asked her if she'd changed her mind about it, she said no and it was the most relaxing feeling ever in those 4 months. I finally was clear and knew she had moved on so I moved on as well.
Sometimes, in order to protect our ego from being "rejected again" or from having the other person ignore us, we make plans and strategies and we sit and wait, but it's really just consuming your brain and emotional power. If you have a doubt about a communication with a girl that was left unclear or kind of open situation, remove doubt by just contacting the person. The way they respond and whether they respond or not will give you an answer that should let you know where the situation stands. I find it more straightforward and it has been more positive than negative for me over last few years.