ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
The coffee is a safe bet until you know she is fun. It is a quick convenient way to screen a woman you have just met [through cold approach]. If you find her to be fun, then you take her somewhere fun next time.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
For date-coffee or drink
- Thread starter Darrenez
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I don't worry about her being fun. I decide my own fun and take her with me.
If you like cold approaching and going to coffee shops that's you.
I don't have time for that unless it's a part of something better I'm doing.
I also don't have time to walk.up to strangers and just ask them out. I've got other things to do.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
- Plenty of times I've stated I don't do the classic cold approach... I just naturally meet woman in the course of my day
- You don't want a wet rag hanging around you at a fun event. It may prevent you from meeting a more fun person
Never had that problem as I get to.know a chick before we go out. And if she was a wet rag? She can go get coffee to liven up while I finish doing what I'm doing.
@ChristopherColumbus don't forget you are in Korea mate. An American girl is going to need a little Kickstarter to get her motor running
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
Yes, was at a bar the other week with an American lass. Was propositioned on the way home in the taxi, but sadly I was simply not attracted to her. She was too much of a 'mate'. Nice to friend-zone a woman for a change! ha ha
Compare that to a coffee date in the weekend. The Korean lady arrives late, which was fine as was working on a poem. Anyway, perhaps due to the poetic flow, we were well-engaged in a bubble within all of 5 minutes of meeting. A quick coffee, and then to the park. Unfortunately, it was a bit public as it would have been perfectly fine to have commenced kissing.