ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
The coffee is a safe bet until you know she is fun. It is a quick convenient way to screen a woman you have just met [through cold approach]. If you find her to be fun, then you take her somewhere fun next time.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
For date-coffee or drink
- Thread starter Darrenez
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I don't worry about her being fun. I decide my own fun and take her with me.
If you like cold approaching and going to coffee shops that's you.
I don't have time for that unless it's a part of something better I'm doing.
I also don't have time to walk.up to strangers and just ask them out. I've got other things to do.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
- Plenty of times I've stated I don't do the classic cold approach... I just naturally meet woman in the course of my day
- You don't want a wet rag hanging around you at a fun event. It may prevent you from meeting a more fun person
Never had that problem as I get to.know a chick before we go out. And if she was a wet rag? She can go get coffee to liven up while I finish doing what I'm doing.
@ChristopherColumbus don't forget you are in Korea mate. An American girl is going to need a little Kickstarter to get her motor running
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
Yes, was at a bar the other week with an American lass. Was propositioned on the way home in the taxi, but sadly I was simply not attracted to her. She was too much of a 'mate'. Nice to friend-zone a woman for a change! ha ha
Compare that to a coffee date in the weekend. The Korean lady arrives late, which was fine as was working on a poem. Anyway, perhaps due to the poetic flow, we were well-engaged in a bubble within all of 5 minutes of meeting. A quick coffee, and then to the park. Unfortunately, it was a bit public as it would have been perfectly fine to have commenced kissing.