"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Follow-up Conversation after opening

buggym4n

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Hey guys,

I've followed this site quite a long while, and now since i just ended a LTR (it's been 3.5 years... i'm 26 now and quite good-looking I assume (slim + a good portion of muscles, almost 6 foot, quite attractive to women (often to those I'm not interested in:)), it I am back in the field and back with some old problems.

So I decided to ask you guy for advice:

How do you follow up with conversation, since I'm usually to slow and uncreative to get a good "personalized" for the situation, I usually open plainly like "Hi! I'm XXX" or "Who are you, then?"

But my problem is to get the conversation going afterwards...To add this info: i'm not _particulary_ good at talking to strangers...

Secondly, how do I change the conversation from "information and opinion exchange" to "flirty-sexual". One in a while that just works but not often. Man, sometimes I hate being a scientist:)

Any ideas?

Thanks guys!
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ALPHAROMEO

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YOU JUST PRESCRIPT 3 TO 4 QUESTIONS ALWAYS THE SAME Qs

DO YOU WANT TO KNOW WHAT THEY ARE?
 

buggym4n

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If you can do it without YELLING, certainly - you know, i got sensitive ears.
 

stayfly

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I still have a lot to learn myself BUT my advice would be;

be curious and get to know them

AND

display your attractive, desirable personality



just be a cool, friendly and curious perspm and keep escalating until you build attraction, have done some basic screening and then get her number and get out of there
 
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