"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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flirting or normal?

speedo_meme

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i met this salon chick about a month ago at a young professionals party and we chatted a little bit, sort of flirty, but her main interest was distributing her cards to help out her clientel. Well she was pretty hot so I ditched my barber and went to her the next week. She remembered me my name and proceeded to really flirt while she cut my hair, giving me various compliments, indiscreetly telling me how cute i was, etc. I played it off as something she does to get business and keep customers coming back. oh well, it was a fun flirt anyway.

4 days later she called my cell phone (she said she always got her customers phone numbers) on a saturday and asked "how my haircut was doing". am i crazy to believe that she was flat out making a move or am i mistaken? i couldn't really talk much because my gf was in the car with me, but she let me know that the number she called on was her cell number (caller id).

i'm going to ask her out anyway, since the only reason i went to her was to get in her pants anyhow, and my current relationship is going nowhere. just curious as to if this behavior was flirting or strictly business. i mean, how many of you have had barbers call you checking on your haircut?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You've got to ask her out - but I'd guess she is just wanting to keep you around (so if you like the cut, don't ask!!!!).

she said she always got her customers phone numbers
I didn't like this.

Perhaps she's just trying to provide service plus - and figures you'd keep coming back if she flirted.

Bottom line - you've got to ask.
 

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that's been a month ago too, so she knows i'm not falling all over her and desperate to date her (i've had the other gf). but since me and my gf look to be doomed i figure what the heck....
 

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also, to add to this.....her phone number rotated off my phone. What's a smooth way to ask for it again without blowing it?
 

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Stop by her office

To schedule you another appointment for a haircut.


Ask her questions related to her job.....

Before you leave ask her out, but plan it around your schedule not her's.

Her calling you afterwards was a pretty good indication that she was at least fairly interested in you.



Sayno'
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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speedo_meme

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haha got her number again, everything's in line with this girl, i didn't notice how big her tits were last time......

she's just 20, so i guess i shouldn't put too much thought into this one....
 
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