"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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flirting or normal?

speedo_meme

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i met this salon chick about a month ago at a young professionals party and we chatted a little bit, sort of flirty, but her main interest was distributing her cards to help out her clientel. Well she was pretty hot so I ditched my barber and went to her the next week. She remembered me my name and proceeded to really flirt while she cut my hair, giving me various compliments, indiscreetly telling me how cute i was, etc. I played it off as something she does to get business and keep customers coming back. oh well, it was a fun flirt anyway.

4 days later she called my cell phone (she said she always got her customers phone numbers) on a saturday and asked "how my haircut was doing". am i crazy to believe that she was flat out making a move or am i mistaken? i couldn't really talk much because my gf was in the car with me, but she let me know that the number she called on was her cell number (caller id).

i'm going to ask her out anyway, since the only reason i went to her was to get in her pants anyhow, and my current relationship is going nowhere. just curious as to if this behavior was flirting or strictly business. i mean, how many of you have had barbers call you checking on your haircut?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You've got to ask her out - but I'd guess she is just wanting to keep you around (so if you like the cut, don't ask!!!!).

she said she always got her customers phone numbers
I didn't like this.

Perhaps she's just trying to provide service plus - and figures you'd keep coming back if she flirted.

Bottom line - you've got to ask.
 

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that's been a month ago too, so she knows i'm not falling all over her and desperate to date her (i've had the other gf). but since me and my gf look to be doomed i figure what the heck....
 

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also, to add to this.....her phone number rotated off my phone. What's a smooth way to ask for it again without blowing it?
 

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Stop by her office

To schedule you another appointment for a haircut.


Ask her questions related to her job.....

Before you leave ask her out, but plan it around your schedule not her's.

Her calling you afterwards was a pretty good indication that she was at least fairly interested in you.



Sayno'
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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haha got her number again, everything's in line with this girl, i didn't notice how big her tits were last time......

she's just 20, so i guess i shouldn't put too much thought into this one....
 
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