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Master Don Juan
Let us keep it ultra short, when a cashier is flirty, how do you go for the number close??
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
+1 rep for that one, that was the kind of answer I was looking for, and I think you put some very good and strong points in.Espi said:When you're number closing a girl at her workplace, it's best to be direct and short--remember that she has managers watching, and despite what she or anyone else says, she is likely very concerned about looking like a slvut in the eyes of her co-workers.
Since you say that she's "flirty," I would just ask for the number.
But don't ask for the number in the checkout line (where coworkers and customers are listening). Just try to approach her when there's no customers, managers, or co-workers hanging around. ..."Hey you! I can't stay long, but I'd like to talk with you sometime. How can I get ahold of you?" Then pull out your cellphone and wait for her to give the number...don't waste time entering in her name. Just call the number first save her name in your phone later.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Good job, Beowolf. What's the point of asking for a number when you know where she works? The very fact that you can go back and talk to her is equivalent to making a quick and businesslike first phone call. It accomplishes the same thing.Beowolf said:Cashiers are a great gauge for training and honing your game. Pick a cashier you like, check the ring finger, and do alot of small talk with joking and negging. After a few times, if she flirts back, flat out ask her if she wants to be packed up along with the groceries and go home with you.![]()