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Master Don Juan
Let us keep it ultra short, when a cashier is flirty, how do you go for the number close??
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
+1 rep for that one, that was the kind of answer I was looking for, and I think you put some very good and strong points in.Espi said:When you're number closing a girl at her workplace, it's best to be direct and short--remember that she has managers watching, and despite what she or anyone else says, she is likely very concerned about looking like a slvut in the eyes of her co-workers.
Since you say that she's "flirty," I would just ask for the number.
But don't ask for the number in the checkout line (where coworkers and customers are listening). Just try to approach her when there's no customers, managers, or co-workers hanging around. ..."Hey you! I can't stay long, but I'd like to talk with you sometime. How can I get ahold of you?" Then pull out your cellphone and wait for her to give the number...don't waste time entering in her name. Just call the number first save her name in your phone later.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Good job, Beowolf. What's the point of asking for a number when you know where she works? The very fact that you can go back and talk to her is equivalent to making a quick and businesslike first phone call. It accomplishes the same thing.Beowolf said:Cashiers are a great gauge for training and honing your game. Pick a cashier you like, check the ring finger, and do alot of small talk with joking and negging. After a few times, if she flirts back, flat out ask her if she wants to be packed up along with the groceries and go home with you.![]()