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Master Don Juan
Let us keep it ultra short, when a cashier is flirty, how do you go for the number close??
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
+1 rep for that one, that was the kind of answer I was looking for, and I think you put some very good and strong points in.Espi said:When you're number closing a girl at her workplace, it's best to be direct and short--remember that she has managers watching, and despite what she or anyone else says, she is likely very concerned about looking like a slvut in the eyes of her co-workers.
Since you say that she's "flirty," I would just ask for the number.
But don't ask for the number in the checkout line (where coworkers and customers are listening). Just try to approach her when there's no customers, managers, or co-workers hanging around. ..."Hey you! I can't stay long, but I'd like to talk with you sometime. How can I get ahold of you?" Then pull out your cellphone and wait for her to give the number...don't waste time entering in her name. Just call the number first save her name in your phone later.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Good job, Beowolf. What's the point of asking for a number when you know where she works? The very fact that you can go back and talk to her is equivalent to making a quick and businesslike first phone call. It accomplishes the same thing.Beowolf said:Cashiers are a great gauge for training and honing your game. Pick a cashier you like, check the ring finger, and do alot of small talk with joking and negging. After a few times, if she flirts back, flat out ask her if she wants to be packed up along with the groceries and go home with you.![]()