"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Flipping the script....

Bigmike89

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I have noticed that girls tend to ask questions like where are you from, what do you do etc not because they want to get to know me but as a way to sort of put me in a category of whether or not she’s interested.

To flip the script, i could reframe the questions she asks into another question that doesn’t reveal too much about myself.

I dont mind sharing facts about myself as long it is not the first thing a girl asks. What do you all think?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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spred

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I think you are correct. Let them ask, answer, but at the same time ask them back the same questions. At the end, act meh or not impressed, so they qualify themselves to you.
 

Alvafe

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overthinking too much, but keep asking the question to her works well
 

BeExcellent

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Its a natural self sorting process that men and women both do in the initial stages of dating. Generally people can reach a decision pretty quickly and based on physical presentation or a photo about whether or not they find someone else attractive from a physical standpoint.

But initial screening also includes finding out if there are mutual compatibilities. Is someone at a similar level in terms of intelligence, education, ambition, common sense, etc. Is there common ground? Are you in the same social strata, do your relate to one another?

That's all that is. Have an answer, these are normal questions that as others have mentioned you should be asking as well. You need to see if she is good enough for you, and if so, in what capacity.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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greatsnake

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I would just throw the question back at them and smile.
Reason: It breaks their train of thought, because they are so use to men catering to them.
 
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