Known this girl for a while, she started seeing someone and they broke up recently. We already hung out once and we planned on hanging out again but I feel like her interest level is not very high. Would you say flaking on her would raise her interest level?
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
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Flaking on a girl
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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"Flaking " is just crap behavior. IT is not a legit technique to amp up a woman's IL.
Flaking is typically a low grade female behavior. Men need to act with more quality/
You need to read some of the lit. on creating value and attraction.
And you also need to accept that many times you will meet women who just do not want to be with you for their OWN reasons.
Flaking is typically a low grade female behavior. Men need to act with more quality/
You need to read some of the lit. on creating value and attraction.
And you also need to accept that many times you will meet women who just do not want to be with you for their OWN reasons.
exactly...jophil28 said:"Flaking " is just crap behavior. IT is not a legit technique to amp up a woman's IL.
Flaking is typically a low grade female behavior. Men need to act with more quality/
You need to read some of the lit. on creating value and attraction.
And you also need to accept that many times you will meet women who just do not want to be with you for their OWN reasons.
its gutless
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
jophil28 said:"Flaking " is just crap behavior. IT is not a legit technique to amp up a woman's IL.
Flaking is typically a low grade female behavior. Men need to act with more quality/
You need to read some of the lit. on creating value and attraction.
And you also need to accept that many times you will meet women who just do not want to be with you for their OWN reasons.
jophil i usually agree, but girls these days are all but garbage. Flaking preemptively and beating them at their own game is sometimes the only way to hold and maintain attraction.
We have some mutual friends, and her best friend is seeing a good friend of mine, and last night he asked me if I been hanging out with her cause her best friend told him.
So anyways today while txting i was like "So I hear you told (friend) we were hanging out? and it seems like convo turned sour after that
Either way I get a feeling she gonna flake tomorrow. We suppose to go for lunch at 12 and she is going out tonight. I ended our txt convo with "I hope you have fun tonight and see you tomorrow" and she didn't reply so I feel like a flake is coming tomorrow.
I don't see anything wrong with what I asked, do you?
So anyways today while txting i was like "So I hear you told (friend) we were hanging out? and it seems like convo turned sour after that
Either way I get a feeling she gonna flake tomorrow. We suppose to go for lunch at 12 and she is going out tonight. I ended our txt convo with "I hope you have fun tonight and see you tomorrow" and she didn't reply so I feel like a flake is coming tomorrow.
I don't see anything wrong with what I asked, do you?