Known this girl for a while, she started seeing someone and they broke up recently. We already hung out once and we planned on hanging out again but I feel like her interest level is not very high. Would you say flaking on her would raise her interest level?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Flaking on a girl
- Thread starter Dole
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
"Flaking " is just crap behavior. IT is not a legit technique to amp up a woman's IL.
Flaking is typically a low grade female behavior. Men need to act with more quality/
You need to read some of the lit. on creating value and attraction.
And you also need to accept that many times you will meet women who just do not want to be with you for their OWN reasons.
Flaking is typically a low grade female behavior. Men need to act with more quality/
You need to read some of the lit. on creating value and attraction.
And you also need to accept that many times you will meet women who just do not want to be with you for their OWN reasons.
exactly...jophil28 said:"Flaking " is just crap behavior. IT is not a legit technique to amp up a woman's IL.
Flaking is typically a low grade female behavior. Men need to act with more quality/
You need to read some of the lit. on creating value and attraction.
And you also need to accept that many times you will meet women who just do not want to be with you for their OWN reasons.
its gutless
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
jophil28 said:"Flaking " is just crap behavior. IT is not a legit technique to amp up a woman's IL.
Flaking is typically a low grade female behavior. Men need to act with more quality/
You need to read some of the lit. on creating value and attraction.
And you also need to accept that many times you will meet women who just do not want to be with you for their OWN reasons.
jophil i usually agree, but girls these days are all but garbage. Flaking preemptively and beating them at their own game is sometimes the only way to hold and maintain attraction.
We have some mutual friends, and her best friend is seeing a good friend of mine, and last night he asked me if I been hanging out with her cause her best friend told him.
So anyways today while txting i was like "So I hear you told (friend) we were hanging out? and it seems like convo turned sour after that
Either way I get a feeling she gonna flake tomorrow. We suppose to go for lunch at 12 and she is going out tonight. I ended our txt convo with "I hope you have fun tonight and see you tomorrow" and she didn't reply so I feel like a flake is coming tomorrow.
I don't see anything wrong with what I asked, do you?
So anyways today while txting i was like "So I hear you told (friend) we were hanging out? and it seems like convo turned sour after that
Either way I get a feeling she gonna flake tomorrow. We suppose to go for lunch at 12 and she is going out tonight. I ended our txt convo with "I hope you have fun tonight and see you tomorrow" and she didn't reply so I feel like a flake is coming tomorrow.
I don't see anything wrong with what I asked, do you?