"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Flaking on a girl or plate?

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I personally see no cons.

In my opinon the person who flakes does so from a position of confidence and abundance. I strongly encourage every aspiring DJ to flake. This pertains to women, jobs, or anything else that tests your willingness to stand by our OWN desire, courage, and conviction. DARE them to reject or censure or ostracize you for doing what you WANT rather than what you SHOULD.

In my experience flaking on a hot chick feels empowering. Exhilerating.
you're a ****ing douchebag. Just so you know, you're the male version of everything we hate in women. You promise to meet somebody, you meet them...on time. You respect the other person and their time


When did basic human decency start being uncool? This goes both ways BTW. I would be cool with a chick flaking on me maybe once if her mother and father and grandparents all somehow died at the same time, anything else and I wouldn't want anything to do with her again
 

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In my opinon a person who flakes does so from a position of confidence and abundance.

I strongly encourage every aspiring DJ to flake. This pertains to women, jobs, or anything else that risks your being rejected or censured or ostracized. Do what you WANT rather than what you SHOULD, and don't ever explain or apologize for flaking.

Also, in my experience, flaking on a hot chick feels empowering. It is exhilerating.
That was awesome! A girl flaked on me so I've been ignoring her... When she asks to Meet up.. guess what I'm flaking too lol
 

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you're a ****ing douchebag. Just so you know, you're the male version of everything we hate in women. You promise to meet somebody, you meet them...on time. You respect the other person and their time


When did basic human decency start being uncool? This goes both ways BTW. I would be cool with a chick flaking on me maybe once if her mother and father and grandparents all somehow died at the same time, anything else and I wouldn't want anything to do with her again
Good answer but I sense you are a bit butthurt no need to fly the moral flag.. i might have a date soon... Damn I forgot my father mother and grandparents died.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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In my opinon a person who flakes does so from a position of confidence and abundance.

I strongly encourage every aspiring DJ to flake. This pertains to women, jobs, or anything else that risks your being rejected or censured or ostracized. Do what you WANT rather than what you SHOULD, and don't ever explain or apologize for flaking.

Also, in my experience, flaking on a hot chick feels empowering. It is exhilerating.
yeah, but what good does it do for you?

The girl will just go out with the 4th guy she has in her smartphone and forget entirely about you.
 
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In my opinon a person who flakes does so from a position of confidence and abundance.

I strongly encourage every aspiring DJ to flake. This pertains to women, jobs, or anything else that risks your being rejected or censured or ostracized. Do what you WANT rather than what you SHOULD, and don't ever explain or apologize for flaking.

Also, in my experience, flaking on a hot chick feels empowering. It is exhilerating.
I can see flaking on a girl who has annoyed and inconvenienced you for flaking but I don't see what purpose it would serve to flake just for the exhilarating feeling of flaking on a hot girl, unless that feeling is better than sex with a hot girl.
 

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I do agree..flaking simply shows deep seated character flaws and has nothing to do with abundance. If your word means nothing as a man, you are nothing.
 

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I also thought one point in time that these games were critical, now I believe that it is actually much more simple. As long as you have some respect for yourself, a good look, and have a life, (which you will need in order to attract someone attractive anyway) the total package is what sets the deal. One little trick is not gonna make a woman fall in love with you, this is great for pick up artists trying to sell their programs etc.

If a woman took great curiousity in your mind games, it would mean that she is highly unsure of her own opinions and has lower self esteem that you really dont want to deal with anyway.

Hook up, have a good time, agree to meet once a week or so for a period of time until she really wants you, dont be her nr 1 texting buddy, should be safe.

Imo, if you like treating people like crap enjoy the ride but dont complain.
 
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