"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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LuvMyArmyMan
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Recently, an ex of mine contacted me and confessed quite a lot to me that i never knew ... anyways, we only had sex once and he said that he was a virgin, and i let "So that explains a lot" slip out ..... well i finally understood why it was so bad.
Be forewarned.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Some people have it in them, regardless if they are virgins or not, and some ppl need practice at it for it to become good and for them to know what they are doing. I have heard lots of stories about girls not being able to tell that the guy was a virgin and that he was so good in bed, yet was a virgin.
So thats a generalisation, not all men genuingly suck in bed. jb131: Dont be let down by what LuvMyArmyMan said, she is talking about her own personal experiences and using them as generalisations, which are not true. So go with it, and give it your all, and you should be fine. If you ACT nervous and ARE nervous and scared that u'll f*ck up, then THATS what will give u away... Go go there and do what u gotta do and just chill and take it easy
Laterz...
WORKEROUTER
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What are some good ways to help achieve giving my gf an orgasm, without going down on her? She claims she's never had an orgasm before. I try to go in as deep as possible and try to vary up the tempo, but I still can't seem to get her to orgasm. Usually, I'm on top.
I feel like I am doing the same thing everytime, and I don't want it to get boring. Any tips or suggestions would be helpful.
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If a girl claims to be cumming while you're banging her, she is most likely faking it.
It's nothing to worry about. It's the girls problem, not yours.
flyinshark
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Yeah, i think indeed more than half of them can't reach orgasm through intercourse. I mean, they theoretically could, but it just takes them waaaay too long.
The solution could be to stimulate their cl!t instead. Many of them are used to that kinda stimulation and it they will reach orgasm faster that way. Use a finger if you don't wanna go down on them. Or, make them stimulate it themselves. They are most probably used to doing it.
That's from personal experience, so don't take it as a generalization.
girls tend to come ALOT easier if they are confortable with the guy and its more about there state of mind.
but i a trick to beat all that..
f*ck her in a position where she is able to rub her own cl*t whilst you're boning her.
tell that it turns YOU of if she rubs her cl*t.
she'll feel comfortable doing it, and will be in control of her own orgasm.
*i read that tip here somewhere, and it really does work.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.