"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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First meet/date at a club???

aquilonBE

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First off respect to those on this site who have helped me shed my AFC ways! It's my first post so go easy guys ;)

On to the matter at hand...Been facebook msging with a solid HB8 and now she's asking to join me on my night out with mates at a club (perhaps I divulged too much regarding my social life). She's going for drinks in town with her girls and out of the blue she's asking for my number so she can maybe 'come along for a dance'.

Now I'm not worried/nervous or anything about doing this I'm just thinking it's a bad idea for a first meet. So any guidance welcome, a) let her know I'm not gonna be at the club for whatever reason so re-schedule. b) wait for the text that night that she wants to join me and play it cool and hopefully bang. or c) something else?

And it being in a club, good ways to keep her focused on the prize! I'm aware of the amount of distractions!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"Maybe next time - I am free Sunday though, if you want to go bowling"
Or a or b
Basically, do whatever.

If you aren't comfortable with that as a first meet (I'm not keen on her meeting my friends straight away) then offer another.
If she's with her girls, then hook them with your buddies and be hailed as the ladykiller almighty. :D
 

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Thanks Pure good advice.

She's the best of the bunch (having seen pics of her mates) so don't really want to bank on that but you're right. The frame is still mine so just need to judge the situation correctly.
 

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Don't be afraid to fail. Failure, not success, is what makes a Don Juan.
Go have fun. :D
 
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