"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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First Dates Are For Making Moves

scrouds

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Just what the title says. I've been thinking lately about good and bad first dates I've had and where things have led to.

IF I treated a first date as a "get to know you" session, it usually grinds down to a halt, and if I get a second date, it usually sucks after that too.

If the first date becomes flirty and sexy and fun, good things lead from that. If not that night, then more likely to get the second date, lay, etc.


I resolve to always make a move on a first date.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Allurre

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Well, it's actually your duty to keep her interest level high on the first date.

You're leaving a lot on the table if you don't switch your habit up.

Hint: Try Sync Dating. It'll definitely change the dynamics of your first date, guaranteed.
 

scrouds

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Allurre said:
Well, it's actually your duty to keep her interest level high on the first date.

You're leaving a lot on the table if you don't switch your habit up.

Hint: Try Sync Dating. It'll definitely change the dynamics of your first date, guaranteed.
My Duty is to entertain women?
Really? Prize mentality would say otherwise, and at least I like to think we're there for our mutual enjoyment.

My point is simple. To the guys that are thinking "lets get to know her first, then I'll start in on her later" well its not working, not going to work. Not if my experience is anything. There will be plenty of time to chit chat during post-coital cuddling.
 

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I gotta say, i agree with scrouds' opinion on this matter.

From my experience things turn out better if the first date is more fun and less interrogation flavoured.

Plus I wouldnt recommend thinking its your duty to entertain her... you're not a magician, you're a goddam MAN. You aint no lacky for some GIRL.

Anyway yeah go with fun, sexy and badass for the first date... and a few after that! ;)
 

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Allurre said:
Hint: Try Sync Dating. It'll definitely change the dynamics of your first date, guaranteed.
Hint: Stop trying to peddle your wares. People come here looking for guidance, not to purchase a product.

Go set up a booth at your local mall and sell your sh*t there.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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lalahaha

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scrouds makes a good point, i've bombed many a girl's interest level even after i got the first date, don't make this crucial mistake
 
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