"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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First Dates Are For Making Moves

scrouds

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Just what the title says. I've been thinking lately about good and bad first dates I've had and where things have led to.

IF I treated a first date as a "get to know you" session, it usually grinds down to a halt, and if I get a second date, it usually sucks after that too.

If the first date becomes flirty and sexy and fun, good things lead from that. If not that night, then more likely to get the second date, lay, etc.


I resolve to always make a move on a first date.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Allurre

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Well, it's actually your duty to keep her interest level high on the first date.

You're leaving a lot on the table if you don't switch your habit up.

Hint: Try Sync Dating. It'll definitely change the dynamics of your first date, guaranteed.
 

scrouds

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Allurre said:
Well, it's actually your duty to keep her interest level high on the first date.

You're leaving a lot on the table if you don't switch your habit up.

Hint: Try Sync Dating. It'll definitely change the dynamics of your first date, guaranteed.
My Duty is to entertain women?
Really? Prize mentality would say otherwise, and at least I like to think we're there for our mutual enjoyment.

My point is simple. To the guys that are thinking "lets get to know her first, then I'll start in on her later" well its not working, not going to work. Not if my experience is anything. There will be plenty of time to chit chat during post-coital cuddling.
 

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I gotta say, i agree with scrouds' opinion on this matter.

From my experience things turn out better if the first date is more fun and less interrogation flavoured.

Plus I wouldnt recommend thinking its your duty to entertain her... you're not a magician, you're a goddam MAN. You aint no lacky for some GIRL.

Anyway yeah go with fun, sexy and badass for the first date... and a few after that! ;)
 

Alle_Gory

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Allurre said:
Hint: Try Sync Dating. It'll definitely change the dynamics of your first date, guaranteed.
Hint: Stop trying to peddle your wares. People come here looking for guidance, not to purchase a product.

Go set up a booth at your local mall and sell your sh*t there.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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lalahaha

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scrouds makes a good point, i've bombed many a girl's interest level even after i got the first date, don't make this crucial mistake
 
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