Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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First Dates Are For Making Moves

scrouds

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Just what the title says. I've been thinking lately about good and bad first dates I've had and where things have led to.

IF I treated a first date as a "get to know you" session, it usually grinds down to a halt, and if I get a second date, it usually sucks after that too.

If the first date becomes flirty and sexy and fun, good things lead from that. If not that night, then more likely to get the second date, lay, etc.


I resolve to always make a move on a first date.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Allurre

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Well, it's actually your duty to keep her interest level high on the first date.

You're leaving a lot on the table if you don't switch your habit up.

Hint: Try Sync Dating. It'll definitely change the dynamics of your first date, guaranteed.
 

scrouds

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Allurre said:
Well, it's actually your duty to keep her interest level high on the first date.

You're leaving a lot on the table if you don't switch your habit up.

Hint: Try Sync Dating. It'll definitely change the dynamics of your first date, guaranteed.
My Duty is to entertain women?
Really? Prize mentality would say otherwise, and at least I like to think we're there for our mutual enjoyment.

My point is simple. To the guys that are thinking "lets get to know her first, then I'll start in on her later" well its not working, not going to work. Not if my experience is anything. There will be plenty of time to chit chat during post-coital cuddling.
 

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I gotta say, i agree with scrouds' opinion on this matter.

From my experience things turn out better if the first date is more fun and less interrogation flavoured.

Plus I wouldnt recommend thinking its your duty to entertain her... you're not a magician, you're a goddam MAN. You aint no lacky for some GIRL.

Anyway yeah go with fun, sexy and badass for the first date... and a few after that! ;)
 

Alle_Gory

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Allurre said:
Hint: Try Sync Dating. It'll definitely change the dynamics of your first date, guaranteed.
Hint: Stop trying to peddle your wares. People come here looking for guidance, not to purchase a product.

Go set up a booth at your local mall and sell your sh*t there.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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lalahaha

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scrouds makes a good point, i've bombed many a girl's interest level even after i got the first date, don't make this crucial mistake
 
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