Notes: The chick is a virgin and doesn't really trust guys. She asked how many partners have I had and I gave her a bs response such as do animals count lol. She then said she thinks I've had 8 partners lol. I took her to a date party and we drank and went to a club. She danced with me the whole time and even stayed with me when her friends left. I used a lot of kino while dancing with her, so that's great. We went to eat afterwards and she told me how she really doesn't trust guys <_<. I didn't want to kiss her or anything cause of her reaction, but we held hands walking back to her place. She said she had a wonderful time and we parted, so what I do next. I'm a straight up noobie.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
First date was a success, now what do I do
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Upside
Senior Don Juan
Kiss her. Do it now. For the love of god this will open so many doors with you.
PS Beware the "doesn't trust guys" thing. First of all, if you have sex with her, she WILL want exclusivity with you considering....she's a virgin who doesn't trust guys.
Second, you may or may not run into the problem where she will have to tag along or get updates on where you are like if you are going to a party or whatever just to make sure you don't do anything silly.
But whatever this is moot point since you aren't there yet.
Kiss her. Now.
PS Beware the "doesn't trust guys" thing. First of all, if you have sex with her, she WILL want exclusivity with you considering....she's a virgin who doesn't trust guys.
Second, you may or may not run into the problem where she will have to tag along or get updates on where you are like if you are going to a party or whatever just to make sure you don't do anything silly.
But whatever this is moot point since you aren't there yet.
Kiss her. Now.
At least go for the cheek kiss. I don't understand why this is so hard, but I've had 20 years practice. If she likes you she will like your kissing her cheek. That leads to the lip kiss. Never rush the French kiss, possibly the most intimate of all acts.
Kiss her when you first see her and when you last see her.
Kiss her when you first see her and when you last see her.
SoSuave666
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I don't think there is a single girl out there that trusts men. I don't know if it's just me, but any girl who I regularly hang around with has male trust issues. Whether or not they actually have trust issues is another story. I think it's just something they say to make us want them to trust us...if that makes sense. They are kind of playing the victim and making us out to be the savior. Beware of all that. Even a virgin will fvck you if she wants to, it may just take a couple more dates than normal (also beware of a girl above the age of 21 saying she is a virgin).
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Eternal_water
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err, are you saying go from a cheek kiss to a proper kiss in the same few seconds or a cheek kiss alone, and a proper one at a later date?bigneil said:
5string
Master Don Juan
Mount her! WTF are you waiting for?
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
You should read the 2,000 other posts that have already answered this question.JPlaya said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Krueg
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A virgin? I didn't know they still made those. 
If the feeling is right and you think things are going well, go for it. Theres been times where I went in for a kiss and the girl moved out of the way completely rejecting my advanced... Oh well You now know where her interest level is.
If the feeling is right and you think things are going well, go for it. Theres been times where I went in for a kiss and the girl moved out of the way completely rejecting my advanced... Oh well
You now know where her interest level is.