Notes: The chick is a virgin and doesn't really trust guys. She asked how many partners have I had and I gave her a bs response such as do animals count lol. She then said she thinks I've had 8 partners lol. I took her to a date party and we drank and went to a club. She danced with me the whole time and even stayed with me when her friends left. I used a lot of kino while dancing with her, so that's great. We went to eat afterwards and she told me how she really doesn't trust guys <_<. I didn't want to kiss her or anything cause of her reaction, but we held hands walking back to her place. She said she had a wonderful time and we parted, so what I do next. I'm a straight up noobie.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
First date was a success, now what do I do
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Upside
Senior Don Juan
Kiss her. Do it now. For the love of god this will open so many doors with you.
PS Beware the "doesn't trust guys" thing. First of all, if you have sex with her, she WILL want exclusivity with you considering....she's a virgin who doesn't trust guys.
Second, you may or may not run into the problem where she will have to tag along or get updates on where you are like if you are going to a party or whatever just to make sure you don't do anything silly.
But whatever this is moot point since you aren't there yet.
Kiss her. Now.
PS Beware the "doesn't trust guys" thing. First of all, if you have sex with her, she WILL want exclusivity with you considering....she's a virgin who doesn't trust guys.
Second, you may or may not run into the problem where she will have to tag along or get updates on where you are like if you are going to a party or whatever just to make sure you don't do anything silly.
But whatever this is moot point since you aren't there yet.
Kiss her. Now.
At least go for the cheek kiss. I don't understand why this is so hard, but I've had 20 years practice. If she likes you she will like your kissing her cheek. That leads to the lip kiss. Never rush the French kiss, possibly the most intimate of all acts.
Kiss her when you first see her and when you last see her.
Kiss her when you first see her and when you last see her.
SoSuave666
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I don't think there is a single girl out there that trusts men. I don't know if it's just me, but any girl who I regularly hang around with has male trust issues. Whether or not they actually have trust issues is another story. I think it's just something they say to make us want them to trust us...if that makes sense. They are kind of playing the victim and making us out to be the savior. Beware of all that. Even a virgin will fvck you if she wants to, it may just take a couple more dates than normal (also beware of a girl above the age of 21 saying she is a virgin).
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Eternal_water
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err, are you saying go from a cheek kiss to a proper kiss in the same few seconds or a cheek kiss alone, and a proper one at a later date?bigneil said:
5string
Master Don Juan
Mount her! WTF are you waiting for?
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
You should read the 2,000 other posts that have already answered this question.JPlaya said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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A virgin? I didn't know they still made those. 
If the feeling is right and you think things are going well, go for it. Theres been times where I went in for a kiss and the girl moved out of the way completely rejecting my advanced... Oh well You now know where her interest level is.
If the feeling is right and you think things are going well, go for it. Theres been times where I went in for a kiss and the girl moved out of the way completely rejecting my advanced... Oh well
You now know where her interest level is.