"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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First Date Question

Andre2807

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I've just been on quite a good first date, just a simple coffee date and a walk-about in the mall. The date went great and immediately off the bat we were chatting, flirting, joking around. The questions game was also quite fun, and she was very receptive with sexual topics like running a naked mile, skinny dipping and so on. During the date she did touch me several times and she had no problems with me touching her back.

After our drinks were finished, I paid the bill, made quick connections with the waiter and proceeded on our slow walk-about through the mall, arm in arm. Slowly walking her back to my car.

Finished of with a decent kiss . All in all, it was a great date and I left her on an high note. My only concern though is that the date was only an hour long.

I'm not sure if I should have tried bouncing her back to mine for a DVD or if I acted correctly by finishing the date on an high note.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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logicallefty

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You handled it perfectly. Whatever IL she had at the time you two departed, she is going to have even more next time she sees you.
 

Andre2807

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Thanks guys.

Logicallefty, what does IL stand for?
 

Moroder

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IL = interest level.
Whenever you run into some weird acronyms on this board, google them and add "slang" to your search phrase (eg "IL slang meaning"). You'll soon be fluent.
 

Comatozed

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I can never help myself and end up making the dates last too long when theyre going well.

Must learn to leave them wanting more!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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