"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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First Date Question

Andre2807

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I've just been on quite a good first date, just a simple coffee date and a walk-about in the mall. The date went great and immediately off the bat we were chatting, flirting, joking around. The questions game was also quite fun, and she was very receptive with sexual topics like running a naked mile, skinny dipping and so on. During the date she did touch me several times and she had no problems with me touching her back.

After our drinks were finished, I paid the bill, made quick connections with the waiter and proceeded on our slow walk-about through the mall, arm in arm. Slowly walking her back to my car.

Finished of with a decent kiss . All in all, it was a great date and I left her on an high note. My only concern though is that the date was only an hour long.

I'm not sure if I should have tried bouncing her back to mine for a DVD or if I acted correctly by finishing the date on an high note.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You handled it perfectly. Whatever IL she had at the time you two departed, she is going to have even more next time she sees you.
 

Andre2807

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Thanks guys.

Logicallefty, what does IL stand for?
 

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IL = interest level.
Whenever you run into some weird acronyms on this board, google them and add "slang" to your search phrase (eg "IL slang meaning"). You'll soon be fluent.
 

Comatozed

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I can never help myself and end up making the dates last too long when theyre going well.

Must learn to leave them wanting more!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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