"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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First Date Question

Andre2807

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I've just been on quite a good first date, just a simple coffee date and a walk-about in the mall. The date went great and immediately off the bat we were chatting, flirting, joking around. The questions game was also quite fun, and she was very receptive with sexual topics like running a naked mile, skinny dipping and so on. During the date she did touch me several times and she had no problems with me touching her back.

After our drinks were finished, I paid the bill, made quick connections with the waiter and proceeded on our slow walk-about through the mall, arm in arm. Slowly walking her back to my car.

Finished of with a decent kiss . All in all, it was a great date and I left her on an high note. My only concern though is that the date was only an hour long.

I'm not sure if I should have tried bouncing her back to mine for a DVD or if I acted correctly by finishing the date on an high note.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You handled it perfectly. Whatever IL she had at the time you two departed, she is going to have even more next time she sees you.
 

Andre2807

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Thanks guys.

Logicallefty, what does IL stand for?
 

Moroder

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IL = interest level.
Whenever you run into some weird acronyms on this board, google them and add "slang" to your search phrase (eg "IL slang meaning"). You'll soon be fluent.
 

Comatozed

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I can never help myself and end up making the dates last too long when theyre going well.

Must learn to leave them wanting more!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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