"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Andre2807

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I've just been on quite a good first date, just a simple coffee date and a walk-about in the mall. The date went great and immediately off the bat we were chatting, flirting, joking around. The questions game was also quite fun, and she was very receptive with sexual topics like running a naked mile, skinny dipping and so on. During the date she did touch me several times and she had no problems with me touching her back.

After our drinks were finished, I paid the bill, made quick connections with the waiter and proceeded on our slow walk-about through the mall, arm in arm. Slowly walking her back to my car.

Finished of with a decent kiss . All in all, it was a great date and I left her on an high note. My only concern though is that the date was only an hour long.

I'm not sure if I should have tried bouncing her back to mine for a DVD or if I acted correctly by finishing the date on an high note.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You handled it perfectly. Whatever IL she had at the time you two departed, she is going to have even more next time she sees you.
 
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Thanks guys.

Logicallefty, what does IL stand for?
 
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IL = interest level.
Whenever you run into some weird acronyms on this board, google them and add "slang" to your search phrase (eg "IL slang meaning"). You'll soon be fluent.
 
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I can never help myself and end up making the dates last too long when theyre going well.

Must learn to leave them wanting more!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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