Ok I've got a date in a few hours with a girl I met online. We are planning to go have a few drinks and talk. This was her idea. The thing is she is only 20 so bars are out of the question. I guess we could just go grab some drinks and go park somewhere. We have a few parks that people go to but I don't want to worry about her getting caught since she is underage. What are your guys thoughts? Btw I live in a small town so not much to do.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
First date problem (hurry)
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Fly By Night
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Why not have her come over to the crib, drink there, then head out? I normally try to drink indoors.
Mr.SomeoneElse
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"Come over for a movie and a back massage"
Same line got me laid last night. Truth
She'll be happy
then you can even say "You'll get one too if you're lucky"
Same line got me laid last night. Truth
She'll be happy
then you can even say "You'll get one too if you're lucky"
JohnChops
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Mr.SomeoneElse said:
this . all day. everyday. will get you laid lol.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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bigneil said:
or do something that involves action, dinner on the first date?! what are you crazy ?!
Mr.SomeoneElse
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Maybe for your age groupbigneil said:
But I dont know man, its been working out so well for me.
I cant remember the last time ive gone on dates.
The times that ive taken a woman out, have been days that ive just wanted company.
I'm going to do a write up on what I do and we can see what you guys think of it.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
a first date should be a natural part of what you do everyday. If you are the type that goes to listen to live concerts a lot that should be a first date. if you are the type that likes to go to comedy shows that should be your first date
if you don't have a good first date idea, it's a very good sign you are a loser if you can't figure out something to do outside of take a chick to a restaurant.
**** go bowling go roller skating, go shoot pool, do something. do what you normally do just bring her.
if you don't have a good first date idea, it's a very good sign you are a loser if you can't figure out something to do outside of take a chick to a restaurant.
**** go bowling go roller skating, go shoot pool, do something. do what you normally do just bring her.
Jair213
Master Don Juan
take her to the nearest flee market. lol