"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BackInTheGame78

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No more expensive dates for the ones you are seeing.


Netflix and chill at your place.

If they are into you, that is all it will take.
If they are not? Kick 'em to the curb.
Quality women typically aren't going for that. Hobags might.
Depends what you want.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Depends on where you live I guess. If they "aren't going for that" then I am "letting them go away" Nobody keeps getting $100 dates from me. In fact, very few women ever have, and I seem to do OK.
I'm not talking about $100 dates. I am talking about Netflix and Chill. I don't do $100 dates either.
 

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It works for me.

My last GF, I spent $7 mini-golfing on the first date. She lost and had to buy ice cream after.

Next date was a drive down to a neighboring community at a lake. Spent the day getting ice cream, walking and touring. Total cost - negligible.

3rd date she came to my house to hang out and watch Netflix, maybe we took a quad ride, whatever. Simple stuff. Sex that date.

She was a quality woman, tight morals, etc.

If they like you, they want to be around you no matter what you are doing. I am a high value man, clean living, great body, high status career, financially sound. Great personality, lots of fun. A woman with high interest doesn't need elaborate dates.....and I don't give it to them.

I AM a believer in the three date rule. Not necessarily hard and fast to it, but as a rule of thumb. If , in her late 40's, she doesn't have enough interest in me to have sex by the third date, I generally move on. Stop trying at least, My time is valuable to me. I lose interest, and if they want to hang out, they can contact me.



So, my experience is as originally posted:

If you have had a couple dates, keep the future dates simple, no/lo cost
No more expensive dates for the ones you are seeing.


If they are into you, that is all it will take.
If they are not? Kick 'em to the curb.
I am talking on a first date with a girl you have never met. Obviously on a 3rd or even 2nd date all of that stuff is cool...
 

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It works for me.

My last GF, I spent $7 mini-golfing on the first date. She lost and had to buy ice cream after.

Next date was a drive down to a neighboring community at a lake. Spent the day getting ice cream, walking and touring. Total cost - negligible.

3rd date she came to my house to hang out and watch Netflix, maybe we took a quad ride, whatever. Simple stuff. Sex that date.

She was a quality woman, tight morals, etc.

If they like you, they want to be around you no matter what you are doing. I am a high value man, clean living, great body, high status career, financially sound. Great personality, lots of fun. A woman with high interest doesn't need elaborate dates.....and I don't give it to them.

I AM a believer in the three date rule. Not necessarily hard and fast to it, but as a rule of thumb. If , in her late 40's, she doesn't have enough interest in me to have sex by the third date, I generally move on. Stop trying at least, My time is valuable to me. I lose interest, and if they want to hang out, they can contact me.



So, my experience is as originally posted:

If you have had a couple dates, keep the future dates simple, no/lo cost
No more expensive dates for the ones you are seeing.


If they are into you, that is all it will take.
If they are not? Kick 'em to the curb.
That's great - love the advice man. I definitely need to be more frugal about my spending on dates, especially first dates. Hey, it's all a learning process. I have another date this weekend and I for sure won't be spending $100. You make a great point "If they like you, they want to be around you no matter what you are doing."
 
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