"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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BackInTheGame78

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No more expensive dates for the ones you are seeing.


Netflix and chill at your place.

If they are into you, that is all it will take.
If they are not? Kick 'em to the curb.
Quality women typically aren't going for that. Hobags might.
Depends what you want.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Depends on where you live I guess. If they "aren't going for that" then I am "letting them go away" Nobody keeps getting $100 dates from me. In fact, very few women ever have, and I seem to do OK.
I'm not talking about $100 dates. I am talking about Netflix and Chill. I don't do $100 dates either.
 

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It works for me.

My last GF, I spent $7 mini-golfing on the first date. She lost and had to buy ice cream after.

Next date was a drive down to a neighboring community at a lake. Spent the day getting ice cream, walking and touring. Total cost - negligible.

3rd date she came to my house to hang out and watch Netflix, maybe we took a quad ride, whatever. Simple stuff. Sex that date.

She was a quality woman, tight morals, etc.

If they like you, they want to be around you no matter what you are doing. I am a high value man, clean living, great body, high status career, financially sound. Great personality, lots of fun. A woman with high interest doesn't need elaborate dates.....and I don't give it to them.

I AM a believer in the three date rule. Not necessarily hard and fast to it, but as a rule of thumb. If , in her late 40's, she doesn't have enough interest in me to have sex by the third date, I generally move on. Stop trying at least, My time is valuable to me. I lose interest, and if they want to hang out, they can contact me.



So, my experience is as originally posted:

If you have had a couple dates, keep the future dates simple, no/lo cost
No more expensive dates for the ones you are seeing.


If they are into you, that is all it will take.
If they are not? Kick 'em to the curb.
I am talking on a first date with a girl you have never met. Obviously on a 3rd or even 2nd date all of that stuff is cool...
 

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It works for me.

My last GF, I spent $7 mini-golfing on the first date. She lost and had to buy ice cream after.

Next date was a drive down to a neighboring community at a lake. Spent the day getting ice cream, walking and touring. Total cost - negligible.

3rd date she came to my house to hang out and watch Netflix, maybe we took a quad ride, whatever. Simple stuff. Sex that date.

She was a quality woman, tight morals, etc.

If they like you, they want to be around you no matter what you are doing. I am a high value man, clean living, great body, high status career, financially sound. Great personality, lots of fun. A woman with high interest doesn't need elaborate dates.....and I don't give it to them.

I AM a believer in the three date rule. Not necessarily hard and fast to it, but as a rule of thumb. If , in her late 40's, she doesn't have enough interest in me to have sex by the third date, I generally move on. Stop trying at least, My time is valuable to me. I lose interest, and if they want to hang out, they can contact me.



So, my experience is as originally posted:

If you have had a couple dates, keep the future dates simple, no/lo cost
No more expensive dates for the ones you are seeing.


If they are into you, that is all it will take.
If they are not? Kick 'em to the curb.
That's great - love the advice man. I definitely need to be more frugal about my spending on dates, especially first dates. Hey, it's all a learning process. I have another date this weekend and I for sure won't be spending $100. You make a great point "If they like you, they want to be around you no matter what you are doing."
 
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