"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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First apporaches

we all eat food

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With some encouragment from some co workers, i made two approaches at work.

I work at Hollister, so girls come in all day, so my first attempt was this girl who was looking at bathing suits and i went up to her and this is how it went
HB8
Me: Hey Do You Need Any Help?
Her: (*****y Voice) NO
Me:...ok

didnt go so well lol, so i tried again with this Hb 7

Me: Hey Do You Need Any Help?
Her: No, im ok
Me: Oh ok, my names we all eat food btw
Her: oh hey im Melanie

and then i walked away and then she passed me again gave me real good eye contact and smiled at me.


So how do u think that went for my first attempt
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Obsidian

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doing your job does not equal approaching. "Do you need any help?" <-- wtf?

And for the record, the majority of people find it annoying when employees bother them while they're shopping.
 

Obsidian

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you've been on this forum for a year and a half and you still don't know what an approach is? are you a complete numbskull?

Be FLIRTACIOUS. Don't just go to work and ask a bunch of customers a stupid question and call that an approach.

Get your act together. Repent of your chumpish ways and read the DJ Bible. You're obviously clueless.
 

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Nah stay positive man. Doing great. It's kinda in your job description to approach like that at work though. Come up w/ something funny. Like when you notice she's looking at something go over next to her to act like your folding clothes then look over. Say something about what she's looking at. If you can make it funny do so. Like "What would mother say if she saw you wearing that?!" then shake your head in disapproval.... a second later-smile. Then be like........."with that said, I think that would look great on you or you'd look good in that." Have to have the right timing and tone though. Start up a little conversation laying on the C+F, get the number, then tell her you have to tend to other customers and she is "selfishly holding you back from doing your job." Good luck

TMTC
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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