"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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First apporaches

we all eat food

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With some encouragment from some co workers, i made two approaches at work.

I work at Hollister, so girls come in all day, so my first attempt was this girl who was looking at bathing suits and i went up to her and this is how it went
HB8
Me: Hey Do You Need Any Help?
Her: (*****y Voice) NO
Me:...ok

didnt go so well lol, so i tried again with this Hb 7

Me: Hey Do You Need Any Help?
Her: No, im ok
Me: Oh ok, my names we all eat food btw
Her: oh hey im Melanie

and then i walked away and then she passed me again gave me real good eye contact and smiled at me.


So how do u think that went for my first attempt
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Obsidian

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doing your job does not equal approaching. "Do you need any help?" <-- wtf?

And for the record, the majority of people find it annoying when employees bother them while they're shopping.
 

Obsidian

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you've been on this forum for a year and a half and you still don't know what an approach is? are you a complete numbskull?

Be FLIRTACIOUS. Don't just go to work and ask a bunch of customers a stupid question and call that an approach.

Get your act together. Repent of your chumpish ways and read the DJ Bible. You're obviously clueless.
 

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Nah stay positive man. Doing great. It's kinda in your job description to approach like that at work though. Come up w/ something funny. Like when you notice she's looking at something go over next to her to act like your folding clothes then look over. Say something about what she's looking at. If you can make it funny do so. Like "What would mother say if she saw you wearing that?!" then shake your head in disapproval.... a second later-smile. Then be like........."with that said, I think that would look great on you or you'd look good in that." Have to have the right timing and tone though. Start up a little conversation laying on the C+F, get the number, then tell her you have to tend to other customers and she is "selfishly holding you back from doing your job." Good luck

TMTC
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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