"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
penkitten
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did anyone report it to a mod?Vis a Vis said:
I think it might have been reported but I'm not sure what was done. I think he gets people's passwords through private messages, so just don't respond to anything, he might be trying to trick people into giving away valuble info.penkitten said:
penkitten
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if you know the new name he is using, report it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
stuka1939
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It was the other way around Jackass, get your facts straight!Vis a Vis said:
I am not an idiot Vis a Vis. You are the guy (I forgot your initial screen name from Oklahoma) that was butt buddies with Deus (now Vladimir) who stole Mahon's screen name and password through private messages. You got banned yourself and now are under your new screen name Vis a Vis.
stuka1939
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ketostix said:
It was shop until I die!! Bingo!! He is the new Vis a Vis!!
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penkitten
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take it from me, reporting it to a mod by pm will be a more effective tool, seem more reasonable and respectable in their eyes and give them a chance to figure out what to do with the situation while they have their secret meetings in that mod corner... rather than posting a thread here, that just makes other people upset and causes flame baiting to begin. i have most certainly been in the OP's shoes during my days here on the forum ... so take it from me when i tell you what was told to me years ago...Vis a Vis said:
"this thread doesn't seem to be going anywhere"
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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chime in new dude...KEYS said:
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just weird
stuka1939
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maybe you should be banned again!Ultimate Player said:
Ken785
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Stuka1939 = Mahon8345 or whatever it is. Different name, same chode.stuka1939 said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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