"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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fingered my gf, now she is numb

The_Mole

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i rubbed hard a few times when i was fingering her but she didnt show any bad signs

now an hour after she says it feels numb

also she is a virgin

and its also my first time fingering a girl

did i hurt her?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Scrumtulescence

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The ****? I think the ****oris usually goes numb after too much stimulation (don't know if an orgasm is required).
 

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First off, who cares. She enjoyed it. No bad signs, even better.

And yes, if she's a virgin and tight, she'll be sore. She won't be like in a dreadful hurt or anything and she's not going to blame you, so quit worrying.

If you worry now, what's it gonna be like when you actually have sex?
 

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and i'm a may 2002


u a active member


thanks for the advice


could she have lost some sensitivity? =(
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Haha, like I said, don't worry about it. No she hasn't lost sensitivity. And if she has, she'll get it back after she's not so sore anymore. I kinda remember my girlfriend still hurting a bit when she was sore and we tried some stuff. But they get over it.

This was meant to happen when they are very tight and still a virgin. Don't worry, she'll be fine. She'll be just about exactly the same in a few days.
 

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The ****oris is like the head of a penis. If you stimulate it too much like for an hour, it's going to be numb for good while.
 

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actually the **** has ten times the sensitivity of the penis... I can only imagine.:eek: ... imagine wacking off for 10 hours straight... I think you would be numb too...

I swear you've posting this before...


???????? If you say c lit it ****'s it... but ****oris is fine?????-?
 

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ya the cl*t is way more sensitive than your penis, so you can't rub it with the same pressure that you'd use on yourself.

Next time use both hands and plenty of lubrication, one hand to hold it open and stimulate the top of the inside and the other to stimulate the ****oris which is at the top on the outside.

Take your time, slow and gentle is better. Stop occasionally and kiss her all over mumbling crap about how great she looks and feels. Really, you're just trying to tease her a little by making her wait, and give her cl*t a break in the action. But you don't want her to know that.
 

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If she's a virgin, chances are that is the reason.

Over time it will not happen.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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