"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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fine line between reality and beliving in yourself

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ok i know that beliving in something often makes that thing come true. for ex: if you walk into the room thinking that you are the man, ur chances of suceess are much greater. however, at some point you are going to have to see reality and see that u are indeed not THE man and that has to be at least somewhat discouraging.

the tricky thing about this dj business is that in order to improve you need both mindsets. mindst 1 to help you move along, and mindset 2 to help you see areas that need improvement. how do you guys balance these seemigly contradictory mindsets?

thx. i ask this because recently i been a lot more "realisitic" and i realized that i was a little down becuase of it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Being The Man doesn't mean you're perfect. Just that you're pretty awesome.

We all have friends that everyone says "That dude is the man!" about them, or some such. Are these guys perfect? Nope. But they're still pretty sweet.

You can be The Man and still screw things up and learn from it. Hell, that's practically an essential.

So I ask, why aren't you "really" The Man? What is this harsh reality you think you must face?
 
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Furyguy said:
Being The Man doesn't mean you're perfect. Just that you're pretty awesome.

We all have friends that everyone says "That dude is the man!" about them, or some such. Are these guys perfect? Nope. But they're still pretty sweet.

You can be The Man and still screw things up and learn from it. Hell, that's practically an essential.

So I ask, why aren't you "really" The Man? What is this harsh reality you think you must face?
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Going off of this, The Man would realize his mistakes and work on these problems.
 
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Furyguy nailed it.

Part of believing in yourself mantra is that you believe in yourself so much that even if you make a mistake or fvck up, you know you are good enough to correct the mistake and fix the fvck up.

Guys who believe in themselves are THANKFUL that they have been made aware of their flaws so that they can work on them....they don't get depressed over discovering their flaws.

See the difference?
 
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Great advice in this thread. You have to be the man in your own life, not in someone elses. (inner game). When you are living your life the way you want to live it, then you are the man in your own life. Trying to be the man in other people's life is just being try hard and attention seeking.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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suaveplayer said:
ok i know that beliving in something often makes that thing come true. for ex: if you walk into the room thinking that you are the man, ur chances of suceess are much greater. however, at some point you are going to have to see reality and see that u are indeed not THE man and that has to be at least somewhat discouraging.
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Don't compare yourself to others. Be THE man in your own mind and people will see you as being THE man.


Nobody can stop you from thinking that. That is your reality. :up:
 
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