"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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fine line between reality and beliving in yourself

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ok i know that beliving in something often makes that thing come true. for ex: if you walk into the room thinking that you are the man, ur chances of suceess are much greater. however, at some point you are going to have to see reality and see that u are indeed not THE man and that has to be at least somewhat discouraging.

the tricky thing about this dj business is that in order to improve you need both mindsets. mindst 1 to help you move along, and mindset 2 to help you see areas that need improvement. how do you guys balance these seemigly contradictory mindsets?

thx. i ask this because recently i been a lot more "realisitic" and i realized that i was a little down becuase of it.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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Being The Man doesn't mean you're perfect. Just that you're pretty awesome.

We all have friends that everyone says "That dude is the man!" about them, or some such. Are these guys perfect? Nope. But they're still pretty sweet.

You can be The Man and still screw things up and learn from it. Hell, that's practically an essential.

So I ask, why aren't you "really" The Man? What is this harsh reality you think you must face?
 
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Furyguy said:
Being The Man doesn't mean you're perfect. Just that you're pretty awesome.

We all have friends that everyone says "That dude is the man!" about them, or some such. Are these guys perfect? Nope. But they're still pretty sweet.

You can be The Man and still screw things up and learn from it. Hell, that's practically an essential.

So I ask, why aren't you "really" The Man? What is this harsh reality you think you must face?
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Going off of this, The Man would realize his mistakes and work on these problems.
 
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Furyguy nailed it.

Part of believing in yourself mantra is that you believe in yourself so much that even if you make a mistake or fvck up, you know you are good enough to correct the mistake and fix the fvck up.

Guys who believe in themselves are THANKFUL that they have been made aware of their flaws so that they can work on them....they don't get depressed over discovering their flaws.

See the difference?
 
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Great advice in this thread. You have to be the man in your own life, not in someone elses. (inner game). When you are living your life the way you want to live it, then you are the man in your own life. Trying to be the man in other people's life is just being try hard and attention seeking.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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suaveplayer said:
ok i know that beliving in something often makes that thing come true. for ex: if you walk into the room thinking that you are the man, ur chances of suceess are much greater. however, at some point you are going to have to see reality and see that u are indeed not THE man and that has to be at least somewhat discouraging.
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Don't compare yourself to others. Be THE man in your own mind and people will see you as being THE man.


Nobody can stop you from thinking that. That is your reality. :up:
 
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