"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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fine line between reality and beliving in yourself

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ok i know that beliving in something often makes that thing come true. for ex: if you walk into the room thinking that you are the man, ur chances of suceess are much greater. however, at some point you are going to have to see reality and see that u are indeed not THE man and that has to be at least somewhat discouraging.

the tricky thing about this dj business is that in order to improve you need both mindsets. mindst 1 to help you move along, and mindset 2 to help you see areas that need improvement. how do you guys balance these seemigly contradictory mindsets?

thx. i ask this because recently i been a lot more "realisitic" and i realized that i was a little down becuase of it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Being The Man doesn't mean you're perfect. Just that you're pretty awesome.

We all have friends that everyone says "That dude is the man!" about them, or some such. Are these guys perfect? Nope. But they're still pretty sweet.

You can be The Man and still screw things up and learn from it. Hell, that's practically an essential.

So I ask, why aren't you "really" The Man? What is this harsh reality you think you must face?
 
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Furyguy said:
Being The Man doesn't mean you're perfect. Just that you're pretty awesome.

We all have friends that everyone says "That dude is the man!" about them, or some such. Are these guys perfect? Nope. But they're still pretty sweet.

You can be The Man and still screw things up and learn from it. Hell, that's practically an essential.

So I ask, why aren't you "really" The Man? What is this harsh reality you think you must face?
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Going off of this, The Man would realize his mistakes and work on these problems.
 
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Furyguy nailed it.

Part of believing in yourself mantra is that you believe in yourself so much that even if you make a mistake or fvck up, you know you are good enough to correct the mistake and fix the fvck up.

Guys who believe in themselves are THANKFUL that they have been made aware of their flaws so that they can work on them....they don't get depressed over discovering their flaws.

See the difference?
 
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Great advice in this thread. You have to be the man in your own life, not in someone elses. (inner game). When you are living your life the way you want to live it, then you are the man in your own life. Trying to be the man in other people's life is just being try hard and attention seeking.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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suaveplayer said:
ok i know that beliving in something often makes that thing come true. for ex: if you walk into the room thinking that you are the man, ur chances of suceess are much greater. however, at some point you are going to have to see reality and see that u are indeed not THE man and that has to be at least somewhat discouraging.
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Don't compare yourself to others. Be THE man in your own mind and people will see you as being THE man.


Nobody can stop you from thinking that. That is your reality. :up:
 
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