"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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fine line between reality and beliving in yourself

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ok i know that beliving in something often makes that thing come true. for ex: if you walk into the room thinking that you are the man, ur chances of suceess are much greater. however, at some point you are going to have to see reality and see that u are indeed not THE man and that has to be at least somewhat discouraging.

the tricky thing about this dj business is that in order to improve you need both mindsets. mindst 1 to help you move along, and mindset 2 to help you see areas that need improvement. how do you guys balance these seemigly contradictory mindsets?

thx. i ask this because recently i been a lot more "realisitic" and i realized that i was a little down becuase of it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Being The Man doesn't mean you're perfect. Just that you're pretty awesome.

We all have friends that everyone says "That dude is the man!" about them, or some such. Are these guys perfect? Nope. But they're still pretty sweet.

You can be The Man and still screw things up and learn from it. Hell, that's practically an essential.

So I ask, why aren't you "really" The Man? What is this harsh reality you think you must face?
 
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Furyguy said:
Being The Man doesn't mean you're perfect. Just that you're pretty awesome.

We all have friends that everyone says "That dude is the man!" about them, or some such. Are these guys perfect? Nope. But they're still pretty sweet.

You can be The Man and still screw things up and learn from it. Hell, that's practically an essential.

So I ask, why aren't you "really" The Man? What is this harsh reality you think you must face?
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Going off of this, The Man would realize his mistakes and work on these problems.
 
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Furyguy nailed it.

Part of believing in yourself mantra is that you believe in yourself so much that even if you make a mistake or fvck up, you know you are good enough to correct the mistake and fix the fvck up.

Guys who believe in themselves are THANKFUL that they have been made aware of their flaws so that they can work on them....they don't get depressed over discovering their flaws.

See the difference?
 
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Great advice in this thread. You have to be the man in your own life, not in someone elses. (inner game). When you are living your life the way you want to live it, then you are the man in your own life. Trying to be the man in other people's life is just being try hard and attention seeking.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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suaveplayer said:
ok i know that beliving in something often makes that thing come true. for ex: if you walk into the room thinking that you are the man, ur chances of suceess are much greater. however, at some point you are going to have to see reality and see that u are indeed not THE man and that has to be at least somewhat discouraging.
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Don't compare yourself to others. Be THE man in your own mind and people will see you as being THE man.


Nobody can stop you from thinking that. That is your reality. :up:
 
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