"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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fine line between reality and beliving in yourself

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ok i know that beliving in something often makes that thing come true. for ex: if you walk into the room thinking that you are the man, ur chances of suceess are much greater. however, at some point you are going to have to see reality and see that u are indeed not THE man and that has to be at least somewhat discouraging.

the tricky thing about this dj business is that in order to improve you need both mindsets. mindst 1 to help you move along, and mindset 2 to help you see areas that need improvement. how do you guys balance these seemigly contradictory mindsets?

thx. i ask this because recently i been a lot more "realisitic" and i realized that i was a little down becuase of it.
 

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Being The Man doesn't mean you're perfect. Just that you're pretty awesome.

We all have friends that everyone says "That dude is the man!" about them, or some such. Are these guys perfect? Nope. But they're still pretty sweet.

You can be The Man and still screw things up and learn from it. Hell, that's practically an essential.

So I ask, why aren't you "really" The Man? What is this harsh reality you think you must face?
 
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Furyguy said:
Being The Man doesn't mean you're perfect. Just that you're pretty awesome.

We all have friends that everyone says "That dude is the man!" about them, or some such. Are these guys perfect? Nope. But they're still pretty sweet.

You can be The Man and still screw things up and learn from it. Hell, that's practically an essential.

So I ask, why aren't you "really" The Man? What is this harsh reality you think you must face?
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Going off of this, The Man would realize his mistakes and work on these problems.
 
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Furyguy nailed it.

Part of believing in yourself mantra is that you believe in yourself so much that even if you make a mistake or fvck up, you know you are good enough to correct the mistake and fix the fvck up.

Guys who believe in themselves are THANKFUL that they have been made aware of their flaws so that they can work on them....they don't get depressed over discovering their flaws.

See the difference?
 
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Great advice in this thread. You have to be the man in your own life, not in someone elses. (inner game). When you are living your life the way you want to live it, then you are the man in your own life. Trying to be the man in other people's life is just being try hard and attention seeking.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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suaveplayer said:
ok i know that beliving in something often makes that thing come true. for ex: if you walk into the room thinking that you are the man, ur chances of suceess are much greater. however, at some point you are going to have to see reality and see that u are indeed not THE man and that has to be at least somewhat discouraging.
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Don't compare yourself to others. Be THE man in your own mind and people will see you as being THE man.


Nobody can stop you from thinking that. That is your reality. :up:
 
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