backseatjuan
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
backseatjuan
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Where is the cat???? Find that cat in this picture!
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
LOL, now that I've had my Geritol:
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
About 20 years ago I used to drive a parkway to work that had very narrow and winding curves. It was made for Model A Fords, not for today's traffic.
They were in the process of widening and straightening the road, and I would be in slow traffic every day. But much to my delight, I would see a black rabbit on the grass every morning in approximately the same place... He became my little friend and I would look forward to seeing him every day.
Once day I was driving by very slowly and I looked for my little friend. I saw him, and as I drove by I discovered that my little friend was a piece of a rubber tire. True story.
They were in the process of widening and straightening the road, and I would be in slow traffic every day. But much to my delight, I would see a black rabbit on the grass every morning in approximately the same place... He became my little friend and I would look forward to seeing him every day.
Once day I was driving by very slowly and I looked for my little friend. I saw him, and as I drove by I discovered that my little friend was a piece of a rubber tire. True story.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
backseatjuan
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Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
I found it but I'll give someone else a shot.
backseatjuan
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taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
backseatjuan
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
backseatjuan
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Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Yup, on top of the cabinet.
backseatjuan
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
OsirisII
Don Juan
Right bottom at tree. Looks like a bigger cat.
backseatjuan
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