"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Fights Fights Fights... what to do?
- Thread starter Climax
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Don Pablo
Senior Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Just something to consider.
Don Pablo
Senior Don Juan
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
diplomatic_lie
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But generally I prefer to avoid arguments. If a girl I date argues with me, I just remind her philosophically to look at the big picture, instead of getting fussed about the petty details. That usually ends the argument on good terms.
I USE to be a playa etc.... so now my gf keeps on having these doughbts that 1 day i'll just leave her for some other girl, or that i am just "playing" her, so everytime another girl comes into the picture or is brought up my gf gets all insecure and that normally leads to an arguement.
So here is my question.... How do i get to trust me fully given my past? (And please dont say "time")
We do go out places, we do get along well, everything is like "perfect", untill her insecurities come up, and its starting to annoy me alot, so any opinions on this would be appreciated.
Thanx
Laterz...
m4a1
Senior Don Juan
He got banned in the end, although I looked at his last few posts and didn't see anything worthy of getting banned over, but hey, maybe he PM'ed SoSuave.com with a death threat, who knows.