beforeimgone
Master Don Juan
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- Dec 28, 2013
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Another kiss. Tons of rejection. I'm on fire
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I grab them by the arm and say wow you're sexy then I say some variance of come talk to me for a minute as I try to get them to move somewhere with me then I try to get them out of the clubWhat do you say when you approach? You talked to more girls tonight than I have in the past 10 years.
They would think I'm a creep if I got sexual right away.
I thought Guru's style was double booking online chicks.I see OP follows Guru's style: bold, shameless, unapologetic. Those three--alone--are all you need.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ill actually do that for money I need cash to pay for my last year or university are peopl here down for that?I thought Guru's style was double booking online chicks.
OP's style is much better. Walking up to DOZENS of girls a day, cold.
@beforeimgone
I would LOVE to see a statistical breakdown of everything.
No of girls approached
No of girls given number to
No of girls number gotten
No of boobies grabbed
No of girls kissed
No of girls sexed
Also, since your post so refreshingly different, I recommend you set up a gofundme page, and ask for donations from sosuavers to support you continuing field reports (if you include as much info as possible so guys like @RichardTheFrog can get some real street based data.)
I'd give you some $$ to support your efforts (so long as you did some objective reporting).
If you're really serious about that, then here's what you do.Ill actually do that for money I need cash to pay for my last year or university are peopl here down for that?
Dude that's an awesome idea. I can set up the gofundme now and will hit the mall tomorrow. What exactly are you guys looking for a breakdown on so I know to pay attention to it when I'm out there.I thought Guru's style was double booking online chicks.
OP's style is much better. Walking up to DOZENS of girls a day, cold.
@beforeimgone
I would LOVE to see a statistical breakdown of everything.
No of girls approached
No of girls given number to
No of girls number gotten
No of boobies grabbed
No of girls kissed
No of girls sexed
Also, since your post so refreshingly different, I recommend you set up a gofundme page, and ask for donations from sosuavers to support you continuing field reports (if you include as much info as possible so guys like @RichardTheFrog can get some real street based data.)
I'd give you some $$ to support your efforts (so long as you did some objective reporting).
Not too sure who guru is. Sounds awesome thoughI see OP follows Guru's style: bold, shameless, unapologetic. Those three--alone--are all you need.
Here he is:Not too sure who guru is. Sounds awesome though
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.