Create Reality
Master Don Juan
who am i to argue with that? whats a good way to play the cute angle?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
SinJester said:Look don't listen to anyone who tells you otherwise, just take it as a complement! If you don't have anything to say, how about "thanks"? I used to always be called cute, but I was too damn insecure about it and I couldn't see that these girls were INTERESTED in me. I was thinking the same as you "cute? what do they mean by cute?"
Hell I've been called 'pretty' by lots of girls. At first I was like WTF and you guys might come up with something like "oh you must be femenine, she thinks of you as a girlfriend". No, no, just no. Each one of these girls was interested in me. They thought I was 'hot' but a word like that is too up front. Maybe you aren't the 'hot sexy' guy but they are still interested. Just like how we can really like a cute girl but not see her as sexy. Semantics.
Just take it as a complement. If you are good at it try some c/f.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Actually, this doesn't mean anything. Escalate things and see what really means. Do it in mass, with a lot of girls before you come up with the conclusion.Create Reality said:who am i to argue with that? whats a good way to play the cute angle?