Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
All taken care of.
Should I call her tomorrow or should I wait three days?
Should I call her tomorrow or should I wait three days?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
So you're a young, skinny(ish) virgin who wants non-commital sex, and you can't find it? You are either trolling your ass off or you are leaving out some crucial aspect of this story. This is an anonymous forum, no one will judge you, so there's no reason to filter your story.samsie1 said:Troll??? I am asking online because my girlfriends are no good with this they say just wait and find the right guy but I am tired of waiting and doesnt seem they are too many good guys out there.
So I should lie? To the guy who said he'd take it from me how would you want a girl to tell you? Beforehand or right before sex?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I'm sorry I failed to pop you. I didn't realize I still had it folded in half.samsie1 said:I will look into the dildo thing but my gynocologist said that isnt the best way to break it and really a man's penis is the best way but I dunno
There is no way this is not a troll. So why are you bothered about being nice?sexyfaceme said:Comeon! if out of so many DJs all around the world cannot help her its a shame.
Dont know what gives people permission to be mean on the internet.
Dont help her but atleast dont attack.
floydb25 said:I dont think this is a troll, or at least the scenerio is very real. Dont know what I can say to help, but you sound naive and inexperienced. Prepare to get corrupted, and not get what you want... Especially if you hook up with the charming player types. Also, the men here are bitter *******s (hence being here), so dont expect any help. Probably better off somewhere else. :cheer:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.