So I had this two day F marathon with this girl I met last week. It was pretty incredible. I feel like my mind is scrambled, I had the day off work to take care of some shyt, but all I do is think about this girl. My game was really tight when I got her in bed, but now that she has rocked my world, I feel like the tables are turned. Yesterday I called her, she called me back on the phone, and we talked for a long time. I probably could have told her to come over or something but honestly I need a couple of days to rest up after last weekend. It is only a feeling I get, but I feel like she may be losing interest slightly. Or maybe it is normal to go through a slight depression/feeling of being with someone? I don't know. I feel like I need to go out and game again, get back into my life and take care of shyt.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Feeling vulnerable after sex
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
NotaNewbie
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You're getting too attached.. leave..
apocalypse later
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Christ, pull back. You sound like you may have already ruined it. When you have sex with a girl, you aren't supposed to feel that she just helped you out, it's supposed to be the opposite. So get through this vulnerable mindset, pull back, and get your game back.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
If you're still talking to her that must mean you want a relationship with her. I think you feel a little down because you've got what you wanted with her and you dont have anything to look forward to. Im guessing its because you're putting too much emphasis on getting laid and not setting other goals for youself.
You asked her if she loved you???? What the hell were you thinking? Im gonna go on a limb and say you ruined it right there. Next time, be cool about it. Dont show any attachment, even if you have it. Dont let a chick fvck the DJ out of you and expose the AFC underneath, or you wont get any repeats. I've learned this the hard way, when I was younger.
Love takes more time mateYou asked her if she loved you???? What the hell were you thinking? Im gonna go on a limb and say you ruined it right there. Next time, be cool about it. Dont show any attachment, even if you have it. Dont let a chick fvck the DJ out of you and expose the AFC underneath, or you wont get any repeats.
ManiacJack
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Nah if he said do you love me, although it's hardly ever a good idea, and she said no or something, reply as if you are relieved she isn't getting too attatched to you... Of course, no playschool "good I never liked you anyway," replies... Something witty that will hopefully make her laugh...
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Wow. Well, this shows that sex sucks then, cause if it is so great, then why would you feel vulnerable? I thought guys were to have testosterone spikes and women felt vulnerable due to the release of some cuddling hormone, not the other way around. This makes me feel good that I'm still a virgin, since I never felt vulnerable after I had sex.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.